10 Tips to Managing Your Expectations of Other People. It goes without saying that one of the ways you can enjoy your best life now is to effectively manage your expectations of other people. I promise you that this is not a lesson in self-centredness. It is about focusing on the most important person on the face of this planet Earth – YOU.
This understanding is one of the things it takes for you to live your best life now while managing your expectations of other people.
The best way to enjoy the best of yourself or whatever life throws at you is to love yourself without a fault regardless of how you’ve messed up with yourself now or in the past.
Here are the ten facts that will help you in managing your expectations of other people:
- Stop expecting other people to always do the “right thing” based on your personal standards.
People’s morals and ethics differ based on factors such as upbringing, environment, norms, values, culture, spiritual beliefs, among others.
For example, in some Asian countries, dogs are considered a delicacy, and they don’t feel wrong for eating animals we view as pets because it’s what they’ve been accustomed to.
Or, let’s say you never swear, but your friend curses like a sailor. Does that make him or her wrong?
Well, to some it does, but expecting them to do right in your eyes will always end in frustration because right and wrong aren’t clearly defined.
- Stop expecting them to be perfect.
If you view imperfections as perfect, then you won’t ever feel disappointed.
However, a lot of people still give others a really hard time when they slip up, and it makes them feel like a let-down, plus it can seriously strain relationships.
If anything, you should actually discourage others from becoming perfectionists.
This is because this obsessive compulsion to have everything just right can lead to depression, anxiety, chronic diseases, and a higher risk of suicide, according to a paper in the Review of General Psychology.
Allow people to make mistakes and learn from them, and think about how life would be if no one ever messed up.
We’d be a world full of cold, heartless robots, and I don’t think anyone wants to see that reality play out!
- Stop expecting them to agree with every word you say.
Even the best of friends don’t agree on everything, so don’t get upset when people challenge what you say, or simply have a different opinion.
The world would be quite boring if no one ever disagreed with our unique perspectives and beliefs. We need to allow the planet to keep evolving and moving toward better solutions.
Think about what would happen if we all agree with continuing to use fossil fuels to power our cars, houses, and just about everything in our lives.
We wouldn’t have solar panels and electric cars if no one challenged the mainstream!
- Stop expecting other people to read your mind.
Some people have a more finely tuned intuition, but others just can’t read feelings or faces as well.
Just because you might be more sensitive and understanding of how others feel doesn’t mean other people are on the same wavelength.
Not everyone wants to become a psychic, so express yourself clearly so others don’t have to guess your thoughts all the time.
Honest, open communication builds stronger relationships, too.
- Stop expecting other people to pick you up every time you fall.
Of course, good friends and family will help you when you need it, but don’t count on them to brush the dirt off your shoulders every time. Maybe they have their own internal struggles and can’t carry the weight of both your problems and theirs at the moment.
So, try to understand their point of view.
They want to help, but just can’t for the time being.
That doesn’t mean they don’t care, it just means you have to channel your inner warrior and fight your own battles sometimes.
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- Stop expecting other people to understand you.
“Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s fine. It’s not theirs to make sense of – it’s yours.” – Olayemi Agboola.
As long as you understand yourself, you won’t feel the need to gain acceptance from others. Then, the fact that they just don’t “get” you won’t really phase you anymore.
- Stop expecting other people to treat you how you treat them ( but educate them on how you want to be treated).
Ideally, everyone would follow the golden rule, but we don’t live in a perfect world.
Until everyone becomes more conscious, we will just have to accept that people will still treat us poorly because they lack a true relationship with themselves.
View their attitude from a compassionate stance, and you won’t feel so hurt if people don’t treat you as kindly as you treat them.
However, never miss an opportunity to educate other people on how you want to be treated.
- Stop expecting other people to be the same person they have always been.
People change over time based on their experiences and circumstances. Every day, people fight a tough battle that no one truly understands but them.
So, keep this in mind when you get the urge to judge them.
Love everyone no matter what or who they’ve become, and not only when they meet your ideals or standards.
- Stop expecting other people to always have everything together.
Life throws everyone a curveball from time to time, and it may take people longer than expected to make it up to the plate.
Have compassion for others, and understand that everyone is just trying to do the best they can.
Focus on bringing more value to the world and into your relationships, and don’t try to control or chastise others for how they handle their lives.
- Stop expecting other people to give you love if you have not offered them love yourself.
All relationships start and end with you.
So you have to truly cultivate love within yourself first if you want it to make that full circle back to you.
Using others to shower you with the love you refuse to give yourself will only lead to strained, insincere relationships.
Developing a more loving attitude toward yourself, will, however, bring about beautiful, thriving relationships.
The above tips will surely help you in managing other people’s expectations. Apply them to your daily living and thank me later.
